dr-grumbles:

stfusexists:

thecurvature:

You know, the “PC” one? Who “has a problem with every little thing”? And “Doesn’t have a sense of humor” and “doesn’t get that it’s just a word,” etc.? Her? Yeah. I hate being her. I mean, I’d rather be straight up hated, really, than perceived as a nuisance and cause for avoidance and eye rolls and resented and thought of as someone who thinks she’s better than everyone else.

I mean, if you’ve been That Person, you know The Look. The one that everyone gets on their face when you start to take issue with something fucked up they’ve said AGAIN, and the way they all look at each other like “Oh. Her. There she goes again, being all ‘political’! Sigh. Is she done yet?”

I don’t know why that look terrifies me so much. It’s a lot worse than a snarl and a combative stance, to me. I can yell back and argue with the best of them, if I want to. But that sense that I am just a giant pain in the ass and it’s best to just ignore her and why can’t I shut up and stop making everyone uncomfortable already … just inevitably makes me feel so small.

That means I’m often bad at saying something when I want to. Fear of that look. Even online — no, especially online, because where The Look happens in real life or not, I won’t know, and so will just assume that it has happened anyway. And then, inevitably, I end up hating myself for it.

Don’t let anyone make you feel like crap for standing up for what’s right, especially not the ignorant douches who think it’s funny to make light of the struggles of marginalized people. It’s tough as hell, and I know full well that the structure of the world is against you. It’s against anyone who dares to challenge the balance of power, anyone who dares to speak up about how and why being downtrodden and the butt of a joke isn’t funny.

And that sucks. But you know what sucks more? Being the sexist/racist/cissexist/heterosexist/ableist/classist asshole making those “jokes” in the first goddamn place. Because those “jokes” are hurting people and perpetuating negativity regardless of whether or not the person making them gets called out. Telling someone they have a festering wound isn’t the problem, the festering wound is the problem.

Yes, people will get defensive. Yes, people will claim that being called sexist or racist or what have you is worse than actually making comments that are sexist or racist or what have you. And the vast majority of the people you call out on their bad behavior aren’t ready to learn from you, and they aren’t ready to admit that you’re right or consider your viewpoint. But when they are ready, your reaction will be an experience that they’ll remember.

But most importantly, you will run across those few people that are affected by what you say, either because you’re calling them out or they watched you call out someone else and were grateful And even if you don’t know that you’ve made a difference to anyone, you probably already have.

Hold your head high, not because you think you’re better than everyone else, but because you’re trying to be a better person than society demands you be.      

 I’m totally that person. This is totally happening in my Research Class right now. I have a white, privilege denying professor who likes to erase populations. Its a challenge for me to get up and go to class every day.

At this point, I have a fucking tiara and sash that say That Person.

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dr-grumbles:

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I’m pretty sure that the majority of my followers read slash. If you do and you’re female, hop to it.

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FUCK YEAH.

$19.90 (including shipping) for 4 comics, not too shabby.

ohsocontrary:

ovarycat:

bitchwitchswitch:

ovarycat:

It’s revolting. I hate hearing it, I hate hearing the roars of the crowd, I hate feeling like there are so many people that would do anything, absolutely anything, in the name of some bullshit, arbitrary borders.

Aurgh.

oooooh yeah. all of this.

starting the morning with the anthem at school and having to stand (otherwise i’ll get lynched for being unpatriotic) makes me sad.
i miss my old school where my teachers let me sit during the anthem, or be late for class, or or or.

uughgghgh

What the fuck. Are you actually required? Because I’m fairly sure that’s illegal.

Whenever we do the anthem or the ~pledge of allegiance~ at school, I will sit down and cross my arms and assume the best bitch face I have. That shit is not happening. Once in middle school a teacher told me to stand up and do the pledge, and I whipped out the Student Rights & Responsibilities handbook, handed it to her, and quoted word for word the section where it says that students have the right to sit or stand silently during the pledge.

Jenny, you’re such a BAMF.

I actually don’t feel the same way, though. It probably has something to do with having an immigrant, underprivileged background. In no other country would me, my parents, or any of my family have the opportunities we do here. I very often (okay fine, mostly) loathe this country, but only because it has failed to meet my expectations. I criticize it because I want to see it get better. One day…

-preens-

That being said, my original post comes from a place of huge privilege.

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